There was a time when you probably used to do it once or twice a day with your man. You’ve tried the most outrageous things in the most unusual places, and loved the thrill and experience that comes with every lovemaking session. Just like every human being, you got older too, which means there was a decline in something along the way. This may have included sex.
A common complaint among older women is that sex is almost next to impossible; however, the truth is you can do it anytime, regardless of the number of candles planted on your birthday cake.
To encourage you, here are 16 reasons why you should have more sex, plus tips on how to keep your libido up and running:
1. Embrace the Fountain of Youth by Keeping Things Busy Inside the Bedroom
If someone told you they found the fountain of youth, would you be willing to line up for it? Sounds tempting, doesn’t it?
Let me tell you something: you don’t need to wait for the so-called experts to discover where the fountain of youth is. All you have to do is to have sex regularly, and you will surely look and feel younger than your years.
According to David Weeks, a clinical psychologist and former head of old age psychology at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, regular sex can make you look up to seven years younger than your actual age. This is because regular sex releases the following hormones:
- Endorphins, or the feel good hormones that reduce anxiety.
- Human growth hormones, which makes your skin look more elastic.
Go ahead and have sex. This is just the beginning of many health benefits.
2. Say Goodbye to Insomnia When You Start to Have Sex Regularly
You might often find yourself waking up at night or having difficulty getting quality sleep. According to the National Sleep Foundation, changes in sleeping patterns are a part of the normal aging process, which sleep experts call sleep architecture. In fact, there is a prevalence of sleep disorders among seniors.
In addition, your circadian rhythm tends to coordinate with the timing of your bodily functions, which explains why you become sleepier in the evening. You don’t need sleeping pills just to be able to sleep. All it takes is a session at night and you are on the road to sleepy land.
Arousal and orgasm encourages the release of oxytocin or the cuddle hormone, which promotes sleep. At the same time, sex shuts down the hormone cortisol, which is linked to stress, anxiety and fear. There is abundance of prolactin too, and that helps you doze off quickly.
3. Kick Headaches Away With More Sex in Your Day
After a long day, your man just wants to lie down next to you and do something to help him relax. Sadly, you used the “Honey, I have a headache” card again, and broke his heart.
Here is another health benefit of having sex often: It reduces headaches.
According to a 2013 study, researchers from University of Munster in Germany found out that sexual activity could provide partial or complete relief against headaches, especially in migraine patients. In fact, 60 percent of the surveyed migraine sufferers said sex reduced the pain, which is good.
The next time you use the, “Honey, I have a headache” excuse, your man knows that it is a good thing, and you are both in it for a treat – and less pain, too.
4. Reduce Vaginal Dryness When You Have Sex
One of the common complaints among postmenopausal women is dry spell down there. That is normal. The drop in estrogen levels and production reduces the amount of moisture in your vagina, and makes the area thinner and less elastic.
Here’s the good news: if you have sex more often, you don’t have to worry about dry spells anymore. The bottom line is to schedule your sessions and have sex. It could be painful and uncomfortable at first, so make sure you have a lube on hand.
Eventually, the dryness will improve, especially if you have sex two to three times a week. This will increase blood flow in your vaginal area, thereby increasing elasticity of the tissues and lubrication.
5. Schedule Sexy Sessions Regularly and Boost Your Heart Health Immensely
Do you want to know another reason why you should have sex more often regardless of your age? It keeps your heart healthy.
One of the most important hormones released during sex and orgasm is oxytocin. Aside from being a cuddle hormone, oxytocin is known to lower blood pressure and makes you less prone to stroke or heart attack.
If that us bit enough to convince you, then you should know that having sex despite your age gets the blood flowing in vital areas and keeps your heart pumping for better circulation.
What’s the bottom line? Having sex regularly is not only fun and pleasurable, but also good for your heart.
6. When Pain Strikes, a Sex Session Could Save the Day
Let’s face it. Old age equates to lot of changes in the body, some are bearable and many others unacceptable and unmanageable.
One of this is pain. You might experience aching joints and muscles, back pain, and even headache that could affect you’re your normal routine. Pain relievers could help, but the question is this: are you willing to rely on pain relievers every time pain strikes? What if I tell you that there is a simple solution for your pain problems sans the side effects, will you go for it?
In that case, have sex regularly.
Oxytocin, which your body releases during orgasm, also promotes the feeling of calmness. Aside from this hormone, sex also triggers your body to release happy hormones like endorphins, serotonin and phenyl ethylamine, which generate the feelings of euphoria, elation and pleasure. These feelings will make you forget about that back pain, leg pain or sore muscles.
In other words, sex makes you forget about pain, so you can feel better both physically and emotionally. Therefore, have plenty of it. It is cheaper, safer and more effective than pain killers you can buy in drug stores.
7. Schedule Sexual Activities Regularly to Boost Your Immunity
Do you always catch a cold or flu despite taking your vitamin C every day? Perhaps you failed to do this simple but often neglected act that will surely boost your immune system.
Yes, this involves sex.
According to a study published in Psychological Reports, participants who have sex at least once a week have higher levels of immunoglobulin A or IgA. This particular component is your body’s first line of defense against free radicals, bacteria, invading organisms, and other harmful substances that could cause infection and make you sick.
Here’s a simple activity for you: target up to two times of sexual activity every week and pay attention to the effects. You might even be surprised that you are less sickly.
Now, you know what to do.
There are still few more health benefits for having sex despite crossing the senior stage. Keep on reading because towards the end of this post, you will find out simple but effective tips on how to boost your libido naturally.
8. Sex: A Type of Exercise Guaranteed to Boost Your Health
When it comes to health, exercise will always be part of the list. This is because exercise comes with tons of health benefits guaranteed to keep you functional and healthy.
Did you know that sex is also a form of exercise? In fact, your body treats sex just like exercise because you will notice your:
- Muscles contract
- Heart rate increases
- You start to sweat
- Muscles get stronger
- Your body burns calories from fat to create energy
- Stamina becomes stronger
In other words, the sensations your body feels when you ride a bike or run in the treadmill is the same with sex, making this activity an effective exercise.
Here’s good news for you: exercise could do more than that. Later on, you will find the importance of exercise to your libido so make sure to keep reading.
9. Have Sex Now, Improve Your Relationship Eventually
You have an idea of what sex can do to your health and overall wellness. However, there is something you shouldn’t forget that specific area where sex has a big impact: your relationship.
Sex encourages intimacy, an emotional connection and physical closeness. At the same time, it increases the quality of the time you spend with your partner. Unfortunately, health problems could strain the relationship, which makes it tough to keep the spark alive.
Scientists from University of Chicago have an answer to that: more physical intimacy. In fact, they found out that couples who have sex or spend intimate moments more often have higher marital satisfaction.
What if you are not in the mood?
Kissing, hugging and cuddling regularly could still make a difference. Who knows, it could lead to something else.
Aside from improving your relationship with your partner, there is someone else who will be happier if you include sex in your daily agenda. Find out who in the next section.
10. The More Sex You Have, the Happier You Are
Above anything, you will be the one benefitting from having sex more often.
Sociology professor from the University of Colorado – Boulder, Tim Wadsworth, found out that the more frequent the sex, the happier the person is. Respondents who had sex at least three times a month were 33 percent more like to report higher levels of happiness than those who didn’t get an action. The rate is even higher if you get some action two to three times a week.
That’s not all. There is an overall increase in your sense well-being, especially when you think that you are having more sex than your peers.
It might be embarrassing to ask, but if you happen to see someone who constantly wears a smile on their face, then either they have everything they want or are getting laid often, or even both.
Now that you know the health benefits of doing the deed even in old age, the succeeding sections will enumerate tips on how to make sure that your libido is still intact.
Let’s face it: sex and old age are two concepts that often don’t go well together. The good news is there are ways to helps you jumpstart you sex drive to make sure that you will enjoy all of the benefits mentioned. Let’s start, shall we?
11. Exercise: Good for Your Heart and Your Area Down South
Fact: exercise comes with tons of health benefits. It keeps you in shape, manages your weight, and improves your strength and flexibility. This also encourages a healthy-pumping heart to facilitate blood circulation, which your libido needs to get it up and running. Physical activities also help build energy and boost overall health and wellness.
You might argue that old age will restrict your movements and makes exercise dangerous. That’s a good point. However, there are exercises that could work for you to get you moving.
Exercise ideas include:
- Light Jogging
12. Cut Your Stress Levels and Make Sure to Give It a Rest
Your body contains enough levels of cortisol for proper functioning. However, a stressful situation could trigger an increase in its production and create chaos in your sex drive. It also makes you more focused on threat and sadly, your body cannot focus on sex and a threat at the same time.
Here is the alarming part: stress knows no age. No matter how old or young you are, it will always find a way to mess up your system. Hence, if you want to keep your libido alive, then you need to keep your stress levels under control.
The first thing you can do is to identify your stressors. This way, you will know what to address, since you already know what is causing the spike in your system. Aside from this, here are other things you can do:
- Learn to say no when you feel like you cannot do additional tasks.
- Do the things you enjoy and love doing.
- Take time to rekindle your love and passion for a particular hobby.
- Socialize and meet new people.
- Don’t forget to lie down and close your eyes anytime of the day to refresh your energy.
Once you are rested and relaxed, your libido follows.
13. Your Body Image Can Make or Break Your Sex Drive
Let’s face it. Not all women in their senior years are happy with how their bodies look, including you. Perhaps, you are not happy with the wrinkles, sagging skin, gray hair, and even weight gain that make you feel unattractive and un-sexy. You may not notice, but this could be the reason why your libido is missing in action.
The good news is you can turn things around. A poor body image often equates to a poor sex drive. In case you are feeling that way, here are tips on how to reverse and change the way you look at yourself and your body:
- Keep in mind that being attractive and sensual only changes, but never fades with age.
- Instead of worrying about your wrinkles and age spots, focus on your strengths.
- Buy new lingerie or underwear to make you feel sexier.
- Pamper yourself regularly with massage, haircut, or a spa visit.
- Exercise regularly, not only to boost your libido, but also to make you feel better about yourself.
These simple tricks could boost your confidence, and make you feel sexier and attractive. Your partner will even love it because you carry yourself well.
14. The Importance of Diet In Keeping Your Libido Alive
You already know how crucial exercise is in boosting your libido; however, exercise is not enough. It needs back up too, and the best way to do this is by eating a healthy, balanced and nutritious diet.
Fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean meats are staple ingredients in your pantry that promise to deliver results inside the bedroom. Heart healthy foods like fatty fish and olive oil equates to healthy sex life, too. Aside from them, it won’t hurt if you add the following libido-lifting foods:
- Avocado – Helpful in metabolizing protein to boost your libido and sexual stamina.
- Celery – An often neglected salad stick that helps you get in the mood for sex.
- Dark Chocolate – Contains high amount of antioxidants and mood-enhancing chemicals such as serotonin to jumpstart your sex drive. Just make sure you stick to chocolates with at least 70 percent cocoa content.
- Oyster – It is high in zinc, an important mineral needed by your body to produce enough testosterone, which helps increase your sexual desire.
15. Better Sex as You Age: The Importance of Communication
It sounds simple and easy to do. After all, what you need to do is to talk to your man, tell him what you want in bed, let him know about the changes you feel inside your body, and just be open.
Apparently, that’s not how it works in all relationships, which is among the reasons for a declining sex drive. This is ironic, since the older you get, the more comfortable and honest you both should be in your relationship.
How do you deal with this and be able to get your sex drive back on track?
The key here is to talk, no matter how hard it is to utter the first few words. You can try being playful by using humor or gentle teasing to get to your point. You and your partner may have been together for years, so look for ways that will get his attention.
Keep in mind that honesty breeds trust, which is crucial in every relationship and important in order to make your sex life work. Just talk and be honest with how you really feel, and the things you want to try inside the bedroom.
Go ahead and just talk. In case he has something to say, make sure you listen without judging and with love.
16. Tips to Remember When Inside the Bedroom
All of the techniques mentioned will surely help in making your libido stay. Still, there’s nothing wrong with giving your sex drive a little push to help you get in the mood.
Some of the things you and your man can do are:
- Schedule your sex sessions and make sure to plot them on your calendar.
- Always have a lubricant on your bedside table. Lube will ease dryness and pain down there to make sex more pleasurable.
- Don’t forget to focus on foreplay. Foreplay helps you get more aroused and excited about sex.
- Spend quality time together with your partner before the actual sex. It could be sharing a meal, an intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant, doing chores together or watching your favorite movies in your PJs. This will help you get in the mood.
- Set the mood inside your bedroom. Red wine, candles, romantic music and dim lights, although common, still won’t hurt.
- Go ahead and experiment with various sexual positions to know what works best for you both.
Sex when you were younger was more of an adventure and doing the craziest, most pleasurable things. Apparently, things are not worse, but just different when you are in your senior years. Aside from penetration, sex is also about intimacy and lots of foreplay. Keep these tips in mind to make sure you will have a cooperative sex life and relationship.
The Bottom Line
Regardless of your age, sex is an important activity that comes with many health benefits. It is normal to experience constraints, especially now that you are past the youth stage. Still, this doesn’t mean you should stop trying.
In case you feel like setting aside this vital human activity, remember these 16 reasons why you need to keep going on. Don’t let your age stop you. After all, sex is not designed for the younger generation along. Go ahead and keep doing the deed.